Lessons from Supreheroes: 1

Honestly I don't know much of the "superhero" world (as my husband can tell you). But I know the basics and thought it would be fun to relate them to life lessons that I feel we all can learn from.

So the first "lesson" I have been pondering is how a superhero almost always has a secret identity, and feels it is imperative that that identity stay...secret. And they are absolutely right! How tiresome and even annoying it would be if, all the time, everyone knew you had special powers. They might expect you to be super all the time, they might think you don't ever need a break, down-time, or a few hours to veg in front of the TV, because that's just normal...not super.
But superheroes do need a break, they are normal that way. In fact they are normal enough to fall in love. It has happened many times, and can be a sticky situation for some of them. Sure, they might try to run away because that would be the "smart" thing, the "safe" thing, or the "right" thing, but that never works. Love is stronger than a superhero.
Or course, there is the fear that the one they love won't love the "secret identity" as well as the superness. The super and the secret cannot be separated. They twist together to form the whole personality of a hero, with one always overshadowing the other, depending on which identity is needed. Even superheroes can be insecure with matters of the heart, but the only way a relationship will work for them is if they reveal themselves completely. They must be comfortable sharing both sides of their 'twist'. Then they will know the comfort of having one person they can relax around, be totally un-super with, and feel the release of having no secrets between them.

I suppose the lesson here may be somewhat apparent. We all have different identities really, the one we show for work, the one for friends, the one for family, the one we reserve for ourselves when we are alone. We go through life, hardly noticing the twists in our facade as we expertly turn to show the appropriate identity. And then we fall in love. It can be scary as we put our "whole" selves out there, but it is required for an honest and fulfilling relationship.
I won't say much more on love and relationships. I can only speak from my own experience. And from that experience I can say that it is awesome to have a husband who loves me completely! Some days I'm "super", others days are not so great, but it is wonderful to know that he sees all of my "identities" and loves me no matter what. And I love him back! Happy Valentine's to my own personal Superhero!